10 Ways to Become More Embodied in Your Confidence
In this video, I go deep into the 10 most essential ways to embody more self-confidence.
By the end of the video you'll learn how to become more embodied in confidence, and the different actions you can take to build that embodied confidence.
1) Look at & celebrate what you’ve already accomplished
One of the biggest catalysts to feeling confident is self acknowledgement & self validation.
In a world that constantly asks you “where are you headed next?!”, or “what are you working towards?!” (which aren’t inherently bad questions by any means), remember to actually pause & celebrate what you’ve already accomplished & who you have become in the process.
One of the mistakes people often make is fixating so much on the future that they completely bypass what they are creating in the present or what they have created in the past. A common theme I’ve seen in working with successful business owners is they set a big income goal for example, thinking that it’s going to be the most life changing thing they’ve ever felt, only to reach that goal & breeze past it so quickly as they fixate on the next thing.
Being a goal oriented person is incredible & I’m so here for the desire to achieve more of our dreams, but in the same breath it’s so important to remember that what you’ve already accomplished, who you are now, & what you have in the present was at one time just a dream & now you’re living it.
So stop & smell the roses, k?
Grab a pen & paper to write out the amazing things you’ve accomplished, have overcome & what you’ve created in your reality. Read it often. Especially in the moments you are having a hard time seeing yourself.
2) Call upon things that you know you’re good at & do more of them
Regardless of what your mind may tell you from time to time, YES there are absolutely things that you’re good at.
Maybe it’s that you’re really good at supporting others, maybe it’s that you’re really great at creating art, maybe it’s that you’re really good at knitting, maybe it’s that you’re really good at playing an instrument…
Regardless of what it is (so long as it’s in integrity with your wellbeing & values) do more of it! When you prioritize doing more of what you’re already good at, that confidence can be poured into new things that you desire to be good at.
New things often times take practice & devotion for them to become second nature to you, so when you’re embarking on something new that challenges you, call upon doing the things that you already feel confident in to teach your body & mind that you do in fact know how to feel confident in other areas, so of course you can learn to feel confident in these new areas as well as time progresses
3) Keep your promises to yourself & take action towards what's important to you
A lot of what creates confidence comes from seeing your progress & meeting your goals.
Keeping your promises to yourself builds self trust & that self trust is the foundation for confidence. When you get clear on what’s important to you, what you desire & what your goals are, the next step is actually taking action towards those things.
For example, if you desire to feel more healthy & confident at the gym, a promise you could make is to exercise for at least 30 minutes 3 times a week by going to the gym.
Or maybe you desire to feel more confident when you show up on video, a promise that you could keep to yourself is to record a video at least once a week to start to teach yourself that you do know how to communicate your ideas effectively.
Every time you keep that promise to yourself, you start to develop self trust & not only will those actions build motivation, but you’ll also find yourself feeling more confident as a result.
4) Start prioritizing how you talk to & view yourself
I believe that shifting how you view yourself & what you believe to be true on an identity level through working with your subconscious mind & nervous system is where sustainable change truly happens.
It’s so important that you learn to hype yourself up, see yourself as whole, worthy & wildly capable in each new chapter you step into, to shift how you see yourself in the world & how you talk about yourself to yourself, as well as with others.
Whether you realize it or not, your words hold a lot of power over your reality. It’s not about always feeling high vibe, never going through a challenge, or never doubting yourself, but rather what stories you tell yourself about your experiences & reality.
For example, let’s say you really desired to sign a certain number of clients into a program but maybe things didn’t turn out how you wanted them to. On one hand you could shame yourself & tell yourself that you’re a failure OR you could remind yourself that each thing you experience provides feedback, that you’re still an amazing leader that helps so many people, & that something even better is going to happen soon.
Again, the stories you tell & what you make things mean about you impacts your reality in BIG ways.
5) Get clear on what your values are & start making decisions based on those values
Understanding your values truly sets the tone for who you are in relationship with your life.
By getting clear on your values, you’re able to take actions & make decisions that are in integrity with those values. By living in integrity with what you value, you’ll start to notice an increase in your self confidence & feel more in alignment with life in general.
For example: if you value health, then you’re going to want to make sure that you’re making decisions & taking actions that have your health in mind which could look like nourishing your body with food that energizes you, drinking enough water, getting enough sleep & prioritizing movement
6) Prioritize your health & wellbeing
Things like movement, nutrition, functional breathing, mindfulness, water, & sleep set the tone for how you feel on a day to day basis.
No amount of positive affirmations or self help books are going to substitute for prioritizing these basic things. Your body is a vessel & how you take care of yourself influences & impacts everything in your life.
There are many studies to show that something such as a weekly exercise routine increases confidence & boosts your mood due to the endorphins, dopamine, adrenaline & endocannabinoid that is released in the body.
Prioritize staying active & honouring the needs of your body, mind, & spirit
7) Stop avoiding failure or getting it wrong
Failing isn’t the thing that gets in the way of your evolution & success, it’s your fear of failing that does.
What if you were to adopt the belief that there is no such thing as true failure, there is only feedback that you can use to adapt & take whatever lessons are present into the next step or thing you’re looking to accomplish?
One of the most important things you can do for yourself is learn to draw upon courage in the moments you’re faced with an opportunity that scares you or calls you forward to do something you’ve never done before. Courage wouldn’t exist without the presence of fear, because why else would you need courage if something didn’t cause you discomfort?
Everytime you choose to walk with fear, & make brave, bold moves, you build your confidence & expand your nervous system capacity for what you can tolerate.
Making mistakes can be some of the most profound moments of your life.
What if you look at your journey as one big experiment? Trying things on for size, seeing what works, & what doesn’t. With this perspective, everything becomes supportive in the pursuit of your goals & dreams.
Ps. Every successful person in the world has experienced the fear of failing. It’s very human of you. It’s not about not being afraid, it’s about who you choose to be in relationship with the fear.
Choosing to be courageous, creates confidence
8) Do the things that scare you or cause discomfort to expand your tolerance & comfort zone
Why? So you can show yourself what you’re truly capable of.
Much like we talked about in the above section about failure, learning to do the things that make you uncomfortable is where so much growth happens.
As you grow & teach yourself that you can absolutely handle leaving your comfort zone & tolerating discomfort in doing so, you start to build more self belief about what you’re capable of & in turn develop a more embodied sense of confidence.
Psst…you’re far more capable than you give yourself credit for
9) Get stoked on your long term goals/vision & let your desires/dreams be in the driver's seat of your life
Yes, your dreams may (& likely will) ask that you do something new or go into the unknown, to take brave action, & you’ll likely need to activate beautiful devotion & self discipline to get to where you desire to be...but this is actually a wonderful thing!
Long term goals require sustainable actions with the intention to be present with your unique process & journey.
Understand that who you choose to be today, effects what you see tomorrow, a month from now, a year from now & so on. Be bold & brave enough to go for it because staying in situations that don’t light you up is a sure way to feel stuck which impacts your confidence big time.
It can be helpful to think about the version of yourself who already exists in the reality where your goal & long term vision has already happened.
What type of person are you in that timeline? What are your habits, beliefs, & how do you take care of yourself? How do your express your confidence?
Let that vision of who you get to become run through your body creating an embodied experience & take action in the present from that place
10) Stop trying to please everyone, and/or following someone else's rules or definition of success
Start prioritizing what YOU actually desire in life & what makes you happy.
Stop taking advice from people that haven’t achieved what you desire, stop chasing arbitrary goals that someone else created, stop letting the projections or judgements of others rub off on you & stop keeping yourself small out of fear of what others may think about you.
I don’t care if it’s your partner, parents, friends, colleagues, or children, you are here to experience the fullness & richness of what it means to be you & what life has to offer. Not everyone needs to “get it” or “get you”.
Your desires & dreams are placed on the altar of your heart for a reason. It’s your job to answer the call & have the willingness to take action with courage towards what your soul is guiding you towards.
What do you actually want? If nothing bad could or would happen to you or the people you love, what would you be doing right now?
How would you be living?
What would you be doing?
When you are lit up by what you’re doing in life, an inevitable result is to feel confident in who you are because you are living in integrity with your soul truth & purpose.